HOLD THE LINE
Cause and effect from coaching has made me a better parent.
The more I coach youth football, the more I realize how parallel coaching and parenting really are, especially with kids under 15.
As a coach, I have a responsibility. Whether someone is paying $5,000 a year to play or playing completely for free, if you are trusted with someone’s child, your job is bigger than teaching the game.
Read MoreThe Truth You Don’t Want to Hear
Sometimes you have to hear what you don’t want to hear in order to get what you want.
I was talking to my book agent today about edits, timelines, and the process of getting this book across the finish line.
During the conversation, we went back to a moment early in the process when my editor told me I needed to rewrite a significant portion of the book.
Read MoreAs a Father, I Felt Terrible. As a Coach, I Did the Right Thing.
There is a fine line every mother or father walks when they coach their own child.
And when your child can really play, that line becomes even harder to hold.
This weekend, I had to make a decision that broke my heart as a father but made complete sense as a coach.
Read MoreBE A DOER.
One of the most underrated traits you can have as a human is being a doer.
Not the person with the best ideas.
Not the person who talks the biggest game.
The person who gets shit done.
Read MoreWHAT ARE YOU WILLING TO GIVE UP?
What are you willing to sacrifice to become successful?
And before your mind goes to money, don’t.
Success means something different to every person reading this.
Read MoreBUILD THE BODY ARMOR
You’re not going to feel great every day.
Nobody does.
Some days you wake up with a full tank. Other days you have 40%.
Give the 40%.
Read MoreTHE SELF AUDIT
Before you ask for more, audit what you’re already doing.
We are very good at explaining why we aren’t where we want to be.
Not enough time.
Too much work.
Bad schedule.
Wrong environment.
Need more motivation.
Need a better plan.
Read More7 Rules of Life
Master it, teach your kids, teach your athletes!
We spend so much time trying to figure everything out. Trying to control what happened yesterday, what people think about us, what tomorrow looks like, and whether we’re doing enough.
Maybe life gets a little better when we simplify it.
Read MoreThe Evidence Bank Theory
Tonight we kick off our first on-field training session with my U9/U10 boys at FC Westchester.
Some would say, “They’re just kids.”
I’ve never subscribed to that theory.
Read MoreDEVELOP AMNESIA
I saw a quote from Vincent Kompany this week that stuck with me.
He’s gone from elite player at Manchester City, to promotion and relegation with Burnley, to now managing Bayern Munich.
Success. Failure. Criticism. Another opportunity.
Read MoreWhat’s Your Biggest Business Asset?
YOUR HEALTH IS YOUR GREATEST BUSINESS ASSET
There’s a reason I’ve always believed entrepreneurs should live like professional athletes.
If you want to perform at a high level in business, you have to prepare your body to perform at a high level in life.
Read MoreThe Fresh Start Effect
THEY LIED TO YOU.
HEY!!!!!!!
LISTEN!!!!!!
THEY LIED TO YOU!!!!
You can start over.
Read MoreThe Translator or The Special One
Before José Mourinho was The Special One, he was The Translator.
Think about that.
Same person. Same ambition. Same confidence. Same mind.
Read MoreSometimes You Have to Do Something That Scares You
You take a deep breath, quiet the noise in your head, and you go.
Maybe it's starting a business.
Maybe it's signing up for a race you've convinced yourself you're not ready for.
Maybe it's asking someone out.
Read MoreWho’s Winning the Conversation?
Every day there is a conversation happening inside your head.
The scary part?
You don’t always realize who is doing the talking.
Sometimes it’s a coach who doubted you years ago.
Read MoreComplainers
There are two types of people you’ll meet every day.
The complainer.
And the doer.
The complainer always has a reason.
Read MoreHow Big Is Your Frying Pan?
One of my favorite stories of all time comes from Nick Saban.
He was fishing with a friend who kept catching beautiful, oversized fish.
Every single time he caught one, he threw it back.
But he kept the smaller fish.
Read MoreAugust Starts Tomorrow
Tomorrow is August 1.
If you live in the Northeast, that means something.
One more month of summer before backpacks come out, alarms get set, and fall sports take over.
For parents, this is where the wheels can fall off.
Read MoreThe People Who Ride With You
There’s a theory that life is like a train ride.
Some people board for one stop.
Some stay for a few stations.
A rare few ride with you until the very end.
Read MoreThe Math of Success
We spend so much time chasing the outcome that we forget what it actually takes to get there.
Frank Sinatra: 1,200 songs. 209 hits. 17% success rate.
Babe Ruth: 8,399 at-bats. 714 home runs. 8.5% success rate.
Pablo Picasso: Approximately 150,000 pieces of art. Roughly 1,170 are considered masterpieces. 0.7% success rate.
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