From the Founder, Brian Mazza 7/21
Nothing Changes If Nothing Changes
It’s a simple phrase. Easy to say. Rolls off the tongue like a motivational poster or a caption under my corny shirtless gym selfie. But living it? That’s a whole different beast.
Why?
Because change is uncomfortable.
And we are creatures addicted to comfort.
Discomfort scares us. It’s the fear of stepping into the unknown. The fear of losing your identity—who you are right now, even if you don’t like it. It’s the fear of who will judge you, who will whisper behind your back, who will secretly root for you to fail.
Before Mel Robbins gave us “Let Them”, we had a far less polished mantra:
“F*ck Them”
Because here’s the hard truth no one wants to admit:
People don’t change until staying the same becomes more painful than changing.
Read that again.
Tattoo it in your mind.
Comfort Is a Liar
Comfort is the silent killer of dreams. It tells you, “You’re fine here. Don’t rock the boat. Stay safe.”
Meanwhile, your goals are dying in the corner.
Your potential is suffocating.
Your future self is watching you play small, wondering how long you’ll tolerate the cage you built around your life.
I know this because I’ve been there.
There was a time in my life when I thought I had it all figured out. I was coasting on the surface—successful by most standards—but underneath, I was stagnant. I wasn’t growing. I wasn’t pushing. And the truth was, I was scared.
Scared to disrupt what was “working.”
Scared of judgment.
Scared of failing in public.
But then life burned it all down—literally.
When my house caught fire in 2020, it wasn’t just my home that was destroyed. It was the version of me that thought he had time to waste.
I woke up to a reality check: Everything you’ve built can disappear overnight. From that point on, comfort wasn’t an option. The pain of staying the same had finally outweighed the pain of change.
The Breaking Point
Everyone has a breaking point.
For some, it’s a health scare. For others, it’s a relationship falling apart, a business failing, or a moment where you look in the mirror and don’t recognize the person staring back at you.
But why wait for life to break you?
Why not break your own patterns before the world does it for you?
That’s what high performers do.
They choose discomfort.
They seek out the hard.
They don’t wait for the pain to grow—they create controlled suffering in their lives to build resilience.
I call it intentional suffering—running 40 miles alone when no one’s watching, cold plunges at 5 AM( yes these are cringe, but they are hard to do) , fasting, saying no to what’s easy and yes to what’s right.It’s not because we like pain. It’s because we know this: Discomfort today builds armor for tomorrow.
Change Demands a New Identity
Here’s something most people don’t understand about change: it’s not about tweaking habits or setting goals. It’s about identity.
You cannot step into a new life holding on to the identity of the old one.
You cannot become the high performer, the leader, the parent, or the athlete you want to be while clinging to the stories of “this is just who I am.”
To change, you have to let parts of yourself die.
That version of you who…
hits snooze 5 times
prioritizes Netflix over fitness
eats like they’re still in college
seeks approval from people who don’t even respect themselves
…they can’t come with you.
This is the hardest part. Not the workouts. Not the meal prep. Not the long nights building a business.
The hardest part is killing off the old self.
But it’s the only way forward.
So What Do You Do?
Get honest about your pain.
Stop sugarcoating. Write down the cost of staying the same in brutal detail. What will it cost you in 1 year? 5 years? Who else will pay the price—your kids, your spouse, your team?
Stop negotiating with your excuses.
Change doesn’t happen when it’s convenient. It happens when it’s non-negotiable. Decide what you’re willing to sacrifice and commit.
Stack small wins.
You don’t have to flip your life upside down overnight. Start small. One disciplined action a day. That’s how you build momentum.
Learn to love discomfort.
Reframe it. Discomfort isn’t punishment—it’s proof you’re growing. Seek it. Chase it. Worship it.
Nothing Changes If Nothing Changes
So here’s the question only you can answer:
What are you willing to do differently today to stop living on repeat?
Will you keep waiting for the pain of staying the same to finally crush you?
Or will you move before it does?
Remember:
The cage you’re stuck in isn’t locked.
It never was.
But you’re the only one who can open the door.
