From the Founder, Brian Mazza 1/19
The Farmer and the Bar of Soap
A farmer was once asked how he raised his kids to be so grounded, capable, and responsible.
He paused for a moment and said,
“Raising children is like holding a bar of soap.
If you squeeze too hard, it shoots out of your hand.
If you barely hold it, it slips away.
But if you hold it just right, with steady pressure, it stays exactly where it should.”
That lesson is not just about parenting.
It is about life.
Most people are squeezing their own life too hard. Or not holding it at all.
They feel behind, so they clamp down.
More pressure. More urgency. More emotion.
They micromanage every outcome. They panic when progress is not instant.
They turn effort into force.
And just like soap, everything starts slipping.
Health becomes inconsistent.
Work becomes reactive.
Relationships feel strained.
Momentum disappears.
On the other side are people who barely hold on.
No standards. No structure. No boundaries.
They tell themselves they are being flexible or going with the flow.
But really they are avoiding responsibility.
Their life slowly drifts.
Fitness fades.
Focus erodes.
Days blur together.
The farmer’s lesson lives in the middle.
Life responds to steady pressure.
Clear standards without panic.
Consistency without obsession.
Structure without suffocation.
High performers are not squeezing their life.
They are holding it correctly.
They show up even when motivation is low.
They train without emotional swings.
They work the plan instead of chasing urgency.
They allow discomfort without spiraling.
They understand that control does not come from force.
It comes from feel.
If you squeeze your life out of fear, it will slip.
If you barely hold it out of comfort, it will drift.
But if you apply steady pressure with intention, it stays in your hands.
This is the question worth asking.
Where am I squeezing too hard.
Where am I not holding the line at all.
Your life does not need more intensity.
It needs better grip.
That is how progress becomes repeatable.
That is how confidence returns.
That is how you stop chasing control and start earning it.
Hold steady. We got this!
