From the Founder, Brian Mazza 10/9
TRUST THE DETOUR
You don’t know enough about your future to call every disappointment bad luck.
But we do it constantly.
The deal falls apart. Someone leaves. You don’t get picked. Something you worked your ass off for goes to somebody else. Immediately, you decide you’re falling behind.
Sometimes the thing that hurts most is losing the future you had already pictured.
You had the job before you got the offer. You had the partnership before anyone signed. You had your kid’s entire athletic career mapped out before they finished elementary school.
Then reality interrupts, and you take it personally.
I saw something this week that said, “Trust the detour.” It made me think about how much energy we spend fighting to keep a plan alive simply because it was our plan.
How many times have you looked back and felt relieved that something you desperately wanted never happened?
That relationship. That opportunity. That version of your life.
At the time, you would have done anything to keep it. With some distance, you can finally see what staying would have cost you.
That’s perspective you rarely have while you’re hurting.
As a coach, I think about this with young players. A kid doesn’t make a team, loses a starting spot, or has a difficult weekend, and the adults immediately start treating it like a disaster. Before the child can even process what happened, someone is making excuses, blaming the coach, or looking for an exit.
Give them a chance to respond. Let them ask questions. Let them discover what they need to improve and experience the satisfaction of earning their way forward.
We owe ourselves that same opportunity.
You don’t have to believe every setback was meant to happen. Some things are unfair. Some losses hurt for a long time. You can still decide what you do next.
Take the feedback. Adjust the plan. Stop chasing people who have made their intentions clear. Put your effort somewhere it can actually grow.
You have to be a builder, especially when the original blueprint falls apart.
This week, look at the thing you keep calling bad luck. Be honest about what it’s asking you to change.
Trust the detour enough to take the next step.
Brian
